5 ways of showing yourself love


Self loveOne of the most important relationships that you will ever have is the one that you have with yourself. From the day you are born to the day you die, you will always and unconditionally have YOU. This is enough excuse to treat yourself with the kindness and love that you deserve…and remember, the more self-care and love you show yourself, the more love you will be able to give to others.

Here are five ways you can show yourself some love – and you don’t need to wait until February 14; you CAN and SHOULD start right away.

Cook something delicious & healthy: If you were preparing a meal for someone you were trying to impress, alot of thought would go into the meal. (let’s face it, you wouldn’t be slapping chicken breast and lettuce together for the guy/girl whose heart you are trying to win over) You’d think about what ingredients to use, how the dish looked when you served it up, and of course, the taste. Time may not permit for gourmet each and every time you cook, but choose a couple of occasions per week where you put in that extra effort in your meal and really give yourself something to look forward to!

Dress to impress: (and the person to impress is you!) Taking pride in your appearance will really go a long way in showing yourself (along with the rest of the world) that you care about you. We are all individuals, so do whatever makes you happy

 If you love your hair straight, then straighten it.

  1. If you feel schmick in a new workout gear, then treat yourself to new runners, tracksuit pants or a cool new gym top
  2. If you love treating yourself to well-manicured nails, then make time to get this done.

No need for you to go over the top; if it’s important to you and makes you feel good, then do it!

Keep good company: Spend time with people who make you happy.  This one is really a no-brainer; however so many people get this wrong. The greatest injustice that you can do to yourself is spend (waste) time on people who are unsupportive, negative and disrespectful to you. Ultimately you cannot control how people behave, but you can control how much space they take up in your life. Let the ones who make you the happiest, take up the most room.

Learn to say no: this one can be incredibly tough, especially if you are used to meeting everybody else’s needs before your own. But saying ‘no’ is also very important when it comes to showing yourself some kindness. Wanting to make people happy is a beautiful quality; however this becomes a problem when you start doing this at the expense of your own priorities. Condition yourself to be more in tune with your own needs so you can stay in balance with who you are. Not every invitation or favour needs to be accepted; definitely help out/attend/join in where you can, but not when it consistently means leaving yourself behind. Better to let a friend down occasionally than to let yourself down repeatedly.

And on that note…

 Make time for down time: Our lives are taken up by the never ending buzzing of the phone, or the email, or the Facebook message and every other distraction you can think of. Give yourself the chance to get away from the hustle and bustle of these distractions and become more present in the moment. Down time will help you recharge your batteries and give your brain a break. You are more likely to be more productive, more creative and much better company, when you’ve had the chance to switch off for a while. So escaping in a great book, going for a walk or meditating will mean you come back to reality even more awesome than you were before!

Written by Danielle Fancellu, Wellness Coach

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